I am an accredited psychotherapist, specialising in couples therapy.
At present (Spring 2024) I am only seeing clients ON-LINE. This is limited to Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays with a daily maximum of four sessions.
How is your relationship?
- Do you long to be seen and heard and to feel sure that you really matter to your partner?
- Are you regularly arguing with each other in a critical or defensive way?
- Does your relationship feel like a safe haven where you can be your authentic self?
- Do you feel caught in a dance of negative interactions or a vicious circle?
- Are you in a place where you cannot find a way through to get the loving relationship back?
- Do you withdraw, feeling undervalued, and not talk to each other for days?
- Do you complain and criticise in a tragic attempt to make contact with your partner?
- Do you trust that your partner will be there for you when you need them most?
Primarily I use the model of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) because it makes sense of the struggles and dilemmas in our close relationships. Looking at our relationship issues through the ‘Attachment Lens’ is the best way to understand them, de-pathologise them and hence to resolve them. In addition, EFT reaches the American Psychological Associations Gold Standard for evidence based practice. Moreover, this model is backed up by extensive peer-reviewed research and favourable long-term outcome studies.
EFT gives you simple practical steps to:
- Notice when you begin to disconnect and know how to reconnect again.
- Work with each other to connect and deepen your relationship.
- Become familiar with your specific negative cycle of conflict and come to see this as the enemy rather than your partner.
- Find a positive future of how you are going to be together.
- Find your true voice and tell your partner how you are doing in the relationship.
‘From the cradle to the grave, humans desire a certain someone who will look out for them, notice and value them, soothe their wounds, reassure them in life’s difficult places and hold them in the dark.’
Dr Sue Johnson,